I started having homosexual desires in high school, and began acting on them when I was 17. For many years I hid it from my family and friends because I felt so much shame and guilt about it, which came from a deep feeling I had personally that I wasn’t meant to live a homosexual lifestyle. I was living a double life, and it tormented me.
At that point, I realized that I was in a vicious cycle of relationships that weren’t fulfilling for me. Even though almost everyone around me supported my lifestyle and told me it was ok, I felt deeply convinced that I needed to make big changes if I wanted different results in my life.
I became so desperate that I finally decided to surrender everything about the way I had been living and ask for God’s help. From that moment on the heaviness I had been living in for many years was lifted. I began reading different books about sexuality and what the Bible says about it. I also attended seminars and met with a priest who helped me process sexuality through a faith-based perspective. I also committed to not date at all for a time. These things brought peace to my heart that I had been searching for, and for the first time my life felt full, like I was living out my true identity.
It was not easy to stop acting on my same sex desires, but I had the support I needed to choose not to. In contrast to what most people would think, I actually found great freedom in putting up those boundaries for myself. I am also now free from the anxiety, depression, and duplicity that were continually present in my past lifestyle. I now walk in an authenticity and freedom that I didn’t know was possible.
I strongly believe that being completely transparent about my life, both past and present, is a way for people to see how the Lord has and continues to set the captives free! To the core of me I feel that authenticity with one another in God's love and truth is so needed today more than ever.
I am most passionate about sharing the love, freedom and restoration found through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Whether in my hometown of San Diego or my ‘home away from home’, Ethiopia, I am sharing the love and redemption of life through Jesus. I love sharing my testimony of living a homosexual lifestyle and the radical transformation of my life through a relentless pursuit of a relationship Jesus. I am completely fulfilled being ‘single’, with my eyes set on my Lord and focused on the call He has on my life and the continued comfort of the Holy Spirit!
Just a little heads up when I'm not in the States, I'm most likely found in Ethiopia surrounded by my 70+ kids at my non-profit in Ethiopia that I started when I was 23.
*Kim is not a licensed therapist or counselor. She does not promise any particular outcome or any particular change to any person's life. *